Are You a Stagnating Dancer?
How to accurately perceive your dance partner and yourself.
In the dance world, shoes and dancewear are not only two items that are Extremely important, collaboration is as well. In order to be able to collaborate well with your dance partner, you must first make sure that you have accurate perception. If you do not have accurate perception, you will not be able help your partner know what he/she must do. You will have the wrong attitude and thus will not make a good dance partner for the other party involved. In dancing you must constantly be moving and if you are not able to change from one particular style to the next, there is no way that you will be able to keep up with what you and your partner are trying to do. You will be what’s known as a stagnate dancer.
Never get attached to the ideals
You must always be aware in dancing and in order to be able to do this, you have to be able to perceive the reality accurately. If you can’t see the person swinging on your left or if you thought somebody was moving slower than they were then you have a problem. Being able to accurately perceive the reality is not as easy as you might think. One thing you must keep in mind is that the perceptions are one of two things. They are either more accurate or less accurate and you must learn how to differentiate between the two.
The realities of dancing with a partner
Women and men dancers often have ideals that they have become attached to in their mind. Things that most commonly run through people’s minds are questions like: What mistakes are bad and should be avoided? Should our partners do what we want them to do and should they be predictable? And does my partner’s dance ability determine how much I get to enjoy dancing with them?
These are all great questions and they can be answered by these simple responses. You can only learn by your mistakes and us them to improve despite the fact that they might be embarrassing. Progress will be slow and you might feel bad about yourself, but keep on going and you will only get better. At the end of the day only you are in charge of how much you enjoyed the dance and only you are responsible for you how you feel and think.
Here are some questions that you should always ask yourself: What have you perceived wrong? Are they ideals or fears? How can you have a more accurate way of looking at it? These questions and more can only be answered by you. So all you can do is continue to practice and make mistakes, but through this process you will only get better. Do not become discouraged, you can do this and become successful. Finally when you have your perceptions on track, you can then focus on your actions. As the saying goes, actions speak louder than words! What will you do differently when you perceive reality more accurately?